How to Date an HIV-Positive Guy
Learn how to navigate dating when your status is mixed If someone's viral load is undetectable, it means the HIV meds are working and they should definitely. I told him my HIV status before we ever went on our first date. His response was “When is the best time to tell someone I am HIV-positive?“. I'm currently in a serodiscordant couple – a relationship where one person is HIV- negative and the other is HIV-positive. We're a completely.
Sometimes those of us with HIV still live under the stigma of the diseaseboth from within ourselves and from outside. My boyfriend, Noah, is HIV-negative. I told him my HIV status before we ever went on our first date.
His response was amazing: But I think we can work through anything if we want to. Maybe I will go do a little education just so I know what everything means. And learning to date after you find out you are HIV-positive can be scary.
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Sometimes other people will say things that can be hurtful. But in my experience, most of the time, people have been amazing and kind, and honestly way more educated about dating with HIV than I would have thought. A person should never feel ashamed of his HIV status, or feel less than or unworthy of love.
The reason for this is less about them and more about myself. Disclosure can be self-affirming. I put my status on all the gay appsI talk about it openly and I write about it. I want the world to know this is who I am, and who I am is pretty fucking awesome. But using good judgment is also important.
Just walk away and go to where the love is.
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How do we make safe sex choices? If I am taking care of my health and my body, taking my meds and seeing my doctor, then I am already living a safe and healthy life, and my sex life is already safer because of that.
This is the idea behind TasP Treatment as Prevention. Safe sex is a two-way street. Knowing your partner and talking openly with them about your expectations and about the health of you both is important. If you and your partner are deciding, as a team, how to manage safe sex in your relationship, another option is to bring them with you to your doctor. The three of you or how ever many of you there are can have an open and honest discussion about the best way for you to approach safe sex.
Keep your promises, and live up to your word. In other words, work on yourself before you look to someone else to keep you happy. Does growing older make you care more, or less?
I go out with friends. One audience member shared that he oftentimes thinks that friendships between men have to have a shared goal, or challenge. Does there have to be a shared activity or a challenge in order for friendships to form?
The amazing thing, said Chang, is how many options there are to make friends these days. Or gay men who do community service projects. The options for social engagement really are really endless.
Dealing with rejection Rejection: So, he decided to face it head on. Putting yourself out there may help, said Chang. Being too afraid of rejection will ultimately hurt, not help, your love life. Deciding when to bail One audience member shared that he was in a new ish relationship, and wondering if he should stay or leave.
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And, ask yourself, why are you dating this person? But for LGBT people, the answer may not be so simple. Or someone to navigate life with.