Is this what we have to expect now as single mums? at a person's character and deen and to marry for that rather than for other things. . anyone as yet. the sites i have been on want women either one or no kids at all. it is. Brothers who decide to marry single mums; please remember these women are See more of Single Muslim Mums on Facebook Entertainment Website. Single Parents's best % FREE Muslim dating site. Meet thousands of single Muslims in Single Parents with Mingle2's free Muslim personal ads and chat rooms. Join the hundreds of single Ad Daqahliyah Muslims already online finding love and friendship with single Muslims in Single.
You may be putting in greater hours over there, and if you are used to luxuries here, going without them for less money may not make you as happy as you once were just because you are in Saudi. Many women would refuse a suitor like this but some would consider him, maybe because they are told no-one else will want them so they should take whatever they can get.
The point is though, it would be a tough decision to make and one that would hurt me a lot as a mother; take away from the kids to gain a husband and father for them?
Come on brothers — do the math! Women are told not to try and change the man they married so why do men?? We should take people as they stand now, if you can handle them and are happy with their character then so be it, but if your are not happy then move on.
They wont know that their step-dad needs time; HE needs to be sensitive to this. I think some brothers honestly think being a step-dad only means financially providing for the kids and taking them to the Masjid. What about being a role model and showing kids by example how to behave? What about giving up those bad habits and watching what you say? Some men just assume their mothers will watch their step-kids automatically from day 1. I was gutted and after having buried myself in work, kids and life, he contacted me out of the blue six months later to confess that he couldn't stand up to his parents, he had just gotten married and apologised.
I decided I had better things to do with my time, and moved on from online dating.
Non-Muslim colleagues and friends would ask if they could set me up, and ask "does he have to be Muslim? My non-Muslim, gay and straight friends and I had many debates over these issues, and it forced me to re-examine my chosen values - could I do FWB? Could I do casual hookups? Was Islam the wrong choice for me?
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Being faced with these challenges and debates, I realised that Muslim or not, FWB and casual hookups weren't my values and never had been, and so it wasn't my faith that was the problem. Last year, almost three years after the UK man, I did meet someone quite unexpectedly - Muslim, similar age, established, local. Over some months he kept initiating brief chats but wouldn't take it any further until I finally asked him if I was meant to read something into it.
I can't see myself being a stepdad to four kids". Although I initially took it at face value, he ultimately bailed.
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The statistics seem to indicate that single parent families, mostly single mother families, is a fast growing demographic yet we as a society seem slow to accommodate or to revise our view of "them" all as destitute. The men often move on with their lives, re-partner and sire more children or use care in the form of paid nannies or female relatives while mothers are left with career sacrifices, financial disadvantage and children who may end up growing without appropriate male role models.
Many single mothers are victims of abusive marriages and ongoing trauma to them and their children from it, while trying to make ends meet and raise the children as best they can. In media we have snide comments such as those by David Archibald about "lazy and ugly single mothers unable to keep a man," while on the other hand we have stories about single mothers choosing poor partners who may have groomed them to access their children, or who end up harming their children in other ways.
Most of the single mothers I know are anything but lazy or ugly. We don't have much time to navel gaze, or to sit and complain, so we simply get on with life and with doing the best we can. We cry sometimes from the sheer overwhelm, the isolation while surrounded by the noise and chaos that is kids without a break, the loneliness of having no loving, vested adult to share our children's accomplishments with, to worry over our children's struggles with … so we share them with each other- in solo parent groups.
We commiserate and we share our triumphs and tribulations.
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As I like to call it, we sit on our pity pot briefly, and then we get up and carry on. When people say "I don't know how you do it", I say I don't have any other choice that is acceptable to me. I don't have time to waste and any man who can't appreciate that and value it, doesn't get it and won't get it.
A man would have to add to our lives to be worth it. The last few years have been some of the hardest in my life, my children have had to make many sacrifices and deal with changes they didn't want - a mother who wasn't there much, worked "too much" and always seems to be tired.
At the same time, they've also learnt, I hope, grit and resilience. They've had countless opportunities to see, I hope, that in order to succeed, you have to keep showing up. They've learnt that relationships take a lot of work and that love is a doing word.