"I never married the wrong guy or pretended to be happy in a relationship when I wasn't. I've wanted to be in love forever with some of the men I've dated. Other possible reasons for never marrying might be intense focus and passion Some might argue that those over 45 didn't fall into the trap of 50% of Should Men and Women Share Dating Costs? where are the good men. Outlook for the future (e.g., will you be married some day? It's that way for Sandy and his girlfriend. the fear of divorce would be one of the reasons why 40+ year-old men had never married. .. As a single woman, 45, I can totally relate to the other comments here about being asked this question with a tone of suspicion.
The commitment-phobe These are the guys who you might describe as serial-monogamists.
Almost always in this situation, she leaves him rather than him ending the relationship. The mere concept of change utterly terrifies him. This chap is not deliberately single; if anything, he desperately wants to be in a fulfilling relationship.
But he subconsciously pushes against togetherness due to the phobia of losing some control, independence, sense of self, or the horror that is a woman who might leave the scatter cushions in the wrong order.
The workaholic This is the man who defines himself by his job. His perception of himself is entirely based on his perception of his success at work. But his status-anxiety leads him to believe that work is the single most important aspect of a man and this leaves little space in his schedule for devoting to a gerbil, never mind relationships. The star-crossed Romeo Remember Romeo and Juliet?
Their love for each other was intense, to the exclusion of all rational thought.
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This chap has loved a woman with all his heart. She cannot be replaced. Just like Romeo and Juliet, it is tragic, heart-breaking, and in the end he dies alone. Quite probably through no fault of his own.
This guy is lurking everywhere. He is plus and never married, yet he will swear to you that he is ready. When you ask him why he is still single, he will tell you it's because he hasn't met the right one. Then the question becomes that if he hasn't found her in the hundreds of women he has dated before you, what is going to make you so special that you are going to be his one? This guy thinks he is very avant-garde progressive, but most people will say he is just looking for an excuse to cheat.
Do you really want to be with a guy who tells you upfront that he won't be faithful?
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Sharing your life with someone is hard enough, so do you really want to sign up to be with someone who is so into himself that they will never even notice you, your wants and your desires?
This guy is a tricky one. When you first meet him, he is endearing because you admire how dedicated he is to his children. You think to yourself that you would like to be with a man who is that responsible.
However, then you start to see that he doesn't have any room for you at all because he is only about the kids.Are You Dating or Married to the Wrong Person (This Is So Powerful)
If you are going to be with a man with kids, he needs to want to find a place for you, front and center, in his life at least some of the time. This guy is really a commitment-phobe in disguise.
Why does he need to date women who mean nothing to him if he is dating you and you supposedly mean something to him?
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You do the math. What other types of men would you add to this list?
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